The guy i like is highly controlling, yet my heart still yearns to see his true self?

sorry to tell you this but you are seeing his "true self". you are not going to change him to make him the man "you" want the world to see him as. the reason he is controlling is because he does fear the uncontrollable, hence he controls. your heart yearns for the person you think he can be not for the person you think he wants to be. he is happy being the way he is. why be with someone who thinks your a fool. why would you want to live your life acting like someone controls you because in the end he will control you. im sorry but the truth speaks volumes.